how to achieve happy digital balance

Practice the “really” rule: When you feel an urge to use your phone or turn on the TV, think about if it’s really necessary for you to do it in the moment or if it’s getting in the way of something else that you need to do. Ask yourself, – do I really need to be using my device right now? Is this the best use of my time really?

Be mindful of the bottomless bowl: Some apps don’t have a limit to how long you can scroll on them, which is commonly referred to as the bottomless bowl. Those are the apps that are the most dangerous for us, the ones that suck us in the most and the ones that require us as individuals to be stronger and more intentional about setting boundaries for ourselves.

Use stopping cues: To limit your time spent on devices, especially when using apps with the bottomless bowl structure, come up with a signal that will let you know how long you’ve been looking at your devices. Then use that signal as a sign that it’s time to take a break from using the device. A simple tool you can use as a signal is a timer.

Switch your phone into grayscale mode when you want to put it down: In your phone’s settings, put your phone on grayscale mode. Essentially what it does is it takes all of the color off of your screen, all the flashing lights, and sometimes you can turn off all the sound. So you get this very blank canvas. It’s so boring, you won’t want to look at it anymore.

Place your phone out of your line of sight: Put your phone behind your laptop or store it in a bag, so you’re unable to see it while you’re working on something. The reason why this works is because the need to be needed is so strong that our eyes are actually flickering back and forth between our screen and our task or the person we’re with because we might be needed . By having it out of our line of sight, there’s nothing to go check. There’s nothing to interrupt us.

Engage in some screen-free activities: Plan to connect with others through screen-free activities. Some choices include playing board games, creating art, sitting in stillness, cooking and trying new foods. Make a list of screen-free activities you like and participate in one when you feel like reaching for your phone.

Use technology to enhance your productivity: Consider using an app for journaling that reminds you to write about your day or think about a few things that you’re grateful for. Send a thoughtful text message once a day to one of your loved ones. Or try a meditation app to incorporate mindfulness into your day.